15 Steps to Fulfilling Your Wildest Dreams

15 Steps to Fulfilling Your Wildest Dreams

There are 3 keys to success in any new venture:

1) Being in the right place at the right time. (You could well be already there!)

2) Have a vision of where the industry/business you’re working in is going!

3) Taking Massive and Immediate Action! (It is time to act!)
“The future belongs to those who believe in the quality of their dreams.” Was it Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe, the famous German poet and philosopher who said those wise words?
Here are 15 steps to fulfilling your wildest dreams…

4). KNOW YOURSELF
Know and accept your weaknesses and faults (we all have them), but even more so your strengths, abilities and gifts. Build on your strengths and try to minimize or improve on your weaknesses. An honest, objective analysis of yourself is the first step in preparing you for success and realizing your dreams. Celebrate you for just being you, a unique creation.
Aim for mental clarity about what you most want out of life. Think about it and write it down. If it’s happiness, what do you mean by happiness: a sense of belonging, recognition, independence, love, money or security? If you don’t know where you are and where you want to go with your life, how will you ever get there? Aim at nothing and you’re sure to hit it.

5). GET PASSIONATE
Don’t apologize for getting passionate. What excites you the most? If you are not enthusiastic and excited about what you’re doing, your path in life, you’ll never get others to share your dream. Once you find your passion, you will have found your POWER, MEANING and PURPOSE in life.

6). SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PASSION
Always be aware. Negative people will poison your dream faster than anything else. Motto: “If you can’t be positive, shut up!” Try and stay positive…even in the face of negativity.

7). ACCEPT FROM THE START THAT YOU WON’T PLEASE EVERYONE
You’re going to be misunderstood, misquoted, hurt some feelings, perhaps even lose some friends (for the time being). Motto: “What other people think of me is none of my business!” Repeat this statement to yourself, especially when you doubt or feel discouraged.

8). ALWAYS BE YOURSELF
To thine own self be true. (Shakespeare’s “Hamlet”, act I.3.) This is supremely important, no matter what the world may think of you. The masses are conditioned to mediocrity and other people’s success can make them not feel inferior for their own insignificant little lives. Accept yourself. Learn from others–but don’t be intimidated by them, or pretend to be someone you’re not; because…”We are most effective when we’re being ourselves.”

9). DON’T BE SCARED OF MAKING MISTAKES
The only real mistake is one from which you learn nothing. Motto: “Far better to try something and fail, than try nothing and succeed!”

10). ACCEPT THAT IT WILL NEVER BE EASY
Realizing your dream may be the hardest, most uphill thing you’ll ever do. A truth …”You can’t coast uphill.” The key ingredient in success is never giving up. Keep on keeping on with your quest. It has been said that ”success is 99% made up of failures”.

11). STAY HUMBLE (no matter how successful you may be)
Don’t ever think you’ve made it and arrived–there’s always a lot ahead, more to do, higher mountains to climb. Motto: “The greatest way to do our thing has yet to be discovered!”

12). DON’T UNDERESTIMATE YOURSELF
There is incredible power in yourself (in the form of the unique human mind), but far more so in the forces of the Universe. Make them work for you by living your life in harmony with these natural forces. Like positive energy attracts like.
Enough “spiritual” thoughts! Back to the “real world” and you. Avoid developing an inferiority complex (Who am I, a ‘nothing’?”). Don’t be filled with feelings of self-pity (”nobody likes me”), or think “I can’t do it.” These thoughts will steal your dream.

13). HAVE FUN
Nothing is ever as bad as it seems–don’t get too solemn, or serious or too downcast when things go wrong (as they surely will from time to time). Take a leaf from Thomas Edison’s book: “I never did a day’s work in my entire life: it was all FUN!” Laugh at life’s funny moments…and there are plenty of them. “The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes, but in liking what one does.” - J.M. Barrie

14). DEVELOP ‘THE WILL TO LIVE’
There will be plenty of times when you’ll face the death of your dream. When failures, disappointments, and criticisms come you need the will and faith to keep going. Remember: We learn far more from our failures than our successes, because failures show us what doesn’t work. So, failure is just one step closer to ultimate success. Often the difference between failure and success is trying just one more time, picking yourself up off the canvas after being knocked down time and again.

15). DEVELOP ‘THE WILL TO HELP AND SERVE OTHERS’
Success on its own (i.e., for its own sake) will pollute and corrupt you–it’s a dead end street unless you have meaning in your life. The years of struggle breed fortitude and character. The gold may be an inch away from the seam, where your fellow miners have given up. You need to succeed for a reason, a purpose, a cause that’s bigger than you! and IF (a very big if) you’ve fulfilled all the above requirements…

Aphivadh's Birthday July 18th, 2010

Power & Politics

I- Definition of Power
II- Base of Power
III- Dependency
IV- Power and Tactic
V- Sexual Harassment
VI- Politics & Political Behavior
VII- Defensive Behavior
VIII- Impression Management Techniques
IX- The Ethics of Behaving Politically

I- Definition of Power

The ability or capacity to perform or act effectively. A person, group, or nation having great influence or control over other.

II- Base of Power

•Formal Power

1-Coercive Power : Authority or power that is dependent on fear, suppression of free will, and/or use of punishment or threat, for its existence.
- Exists when the use of or the threat of force is made to extract compliance from another. Force is not limited to physical mean, social, emotional, political, or economic . Force is also included.

2- Reward Power : is the ability of someone to reward another through possessing resources the other values.
-Its based on the right of some to offer tangible, social, emotional or spiritual reward to other for doing what is wanted or expected of them or to deny others something tangible,social,emotional, political, or spiritual for failing to or refusing to do what is desired or expected of them.

3- Legitimate Power : is the power that a leader gets by default, due to his position in an organization. A leader essentially is distinguished from a follower due to the greater rights and responsibility he has than others. That is, additional rights that legitimate power bestows on him, distinguishes him from followers.


•Information Power

depends on your giving or withholding of information or having knowledge that others do not have. Use informational power when giving orders to subordinates.

1- Expert Power : is based on what one knows, what experience one has, and/or what special skills or talents one has.

2-Referent Power: Derives from your subordinates identification or association with you. You have this power by simply being “the chief.” People identify with the ideals you stand for. The chief has a pre-established image.

3-Charismatic Power: is that aura possessed by only a few individuals in our midst, it is characterized by super confidence, typical physical attractiveness, social adroitness, amiability, sharpened leadership skill, and heightened charm.

III- Dependency

•The General Dependency Postulate
-The greater B’s dependency on A, the greater the power A has over B.
-If you can create a monopoly by controlling information or anything that other crave.
-if something is plentiful possession of it will not increase your power.
-Financial independence reduces the power that other can have over us.

•What creates dependency?
-Dependency is increased when the resource you control is important, scrarce, and non substitutability.

1.Importance:
- If no body wants, what you’ve got, it’s not going to create dependency.
-To create dependency the thing(s) you control must be perceived as being important.

2. Scarcity:
-The more that are source has no viable substitutes, the more power that control over that resource provides.
-The scarcity-dependency relationship can further be seen in the power of occupation categories.

3.Non substitutability:
-The more that a resource has no viable substitutes the more power that control over that resource provides.

IV- Power and Tactic
Table1: Use of Power Tactics: From Most to least Popular














This research uncover five contingency variable.
1- The manager’s relative power
2- The manager’s objectives for wanting to influence
3- The manager’s expectation of the target person’s willingness to comply
4- The organization’s culture
5- Cross-cultural differences

V- Sexual Harassment

The Sexual Harassment is an unwanted activity of a sexual nature and this is will affects to the individual’s employment, this includes unwanted physical touching, recurring requests when the person is not interested, and threatening person to lose the job if he/she not agreed. Sexual harassment is the formal power and let the supervisor judge the performance, make recommendation , salary adjustment, promotion…etc. where this is kind of control center and that is a wrong perception.

VI- Politics & Political Behavior

What is Politics in organization?
Politics is informal, unofficial, and some time behind-the-senses people trying to sell ideas, influence to the organization, increase power or achieve other target objective.
Research from HR Magazine said “Manager waste 20% of their time managing the politics in the organization”.

Political Behavior
Political behavior refer to some activity which is not require as part on the role in organization, but it influence and impact to the organization.
Ex:
- Hide key information from decision makers
- Joining coalition
- Leak confidential information about organization to
- Exchanging favors with others for benefit

The Reality of the politics
Politics are a part of organizational life, because organizations are made up of different interests that need to be aligned.

Organizations are made up of individuals and groups with different values, goals, interests. This sets up potential for conflict.

In fact, 93% of managers surveyed reported that workplace politics exist in their organization, and 70% felt that in order to be successful, a person has to engage in politics.

Politics impact to the Organization
While having a politics in the organization there will be a huge impact to the level of employee where those impact will be:
1.Employee Moral
2.Teamwork
3.Commitment
4.Motivation
5.Goal alignment
6.Organization Performance

VII- Defensive Behavior

Is the reactive and protective behaviors to avoid action, blame, or change.
1- Avoiding Action
-Overconforming
-Buck passing
-Playing dumb
-Stalling

2- Avoiding Blame
-Buffing
-Playing safe
-Justifying
-Scapegoating
-Misrepresention

3- Avoiding Change
-Prevention
-Self-protection

VIII- Impression Management Techniques

The process by which individuals attempt to control the impression others form of them.
1- Conformity
2- Excuses
3- Apologies
4- Self-promotion
5- Flattery
6- Favors
7- Association

IX- The Ethics of Behaving Politically

Ethical actions are consistent with the organization’s goals. Spreading untrue rumors about the safety of a new product introduced by your company, in order to make that product’s design team look bad, is unethical.

Leakhena Surprise Birthday June 23rd, 2010

Something that you cannot imagine how friends love you, indeed our friends want to see you got the smiley face in view of the fact that you have faced to many things in the family, we're alway be with you. The biggest gift from us is loving, caring from our truely heart to you. I knew you felt so excited that's why the tear falling down into the cheek which had shown that you were impressing of our activities. On 23rd, all of our friends could see both your tear & your mother's tear, therefore, we can feel how your deeply loving between you and mother. Your mother is definitely proud to have you as the daughter since you have sacrificed a lot for the whole family. Moreover, you have been more trustworthy & honourable from all of people around, not only our buddies, family's member, relatives, but also your colleagues and espcially your boss because you told us that she had made a surprise birthday for you as well.

I am really proud of you and appreciated for our friendship over than 8 years since 2002 while we were at university. We had been together struggling some apart of our obstacles both working and daily life, also a lot of fun among our university's friends during that time. Although, sometimes we had some bitter situation to each other, however, we still could resolve and kept our relationship for longlasting.

Life is the combination!!!!!!!

Here is our poem to you, showed our mind and reality.

Leakhena is a dear friend
to everyone,
Not just me..
You are a kind and high
spirited person..
Whether hardships comes to
your way,
You still always take the lead.

You are a very serious person
And always take the courage
to face everything.
You’ve loved your family much,
Sacrifice yourself for them
And do good deeds..

You are always there for us,
If we have a tear in our eye
And always have a joke,

To make us laugh and cry.. We may not be your best friend
but we surely know that we always try to be the best that we could be..

We’re your true friend, and forever no matter what happen.

For eternity we will be….
Love & Care,

Holiday time with sweet friends

The confection of the trip to Koh Kong Resort in February 2010. The scenery quiet nice and so lovely, also the people is very helpful. My friends did help a lots while i was in the miserable time. Early of 2010 had been happening and changing my life, but i do strongly believe that i'll be getting the brightening for the rest of 2010.

My holiday time to Kampong Som during King Birthday May 13-15, 2010.

My below friends start from left to right : Assine, Leakhena, Sokny, Me, Catherine, Solika.

10 Steps To Making New Friends

No matter what stage in life you're at, it isn't always easy to make new friends. Whilst at school, college or university, making friends is relatively easy, even for shy people, as people are of a similar age, with fairly similar interests, in the same location. However, making friends later on in life can be much more difficult. There may be colleagues at work, people you know at the gym, somebody you walk past every day, acquaintances in the pub, but how many of these are your real friends? How many would you trust with a secret, or a problem? For people who have moved away to a new town, or whose relationship circumstances have changed, having to make new friends can be a daunting prospect. Following these suggestions can help make finding new friends a bit easier.

1) Do something! Don't stay in waiting for new friends to suddenly appear. They won't. Sign up for an evening course and you could learn a new language, become a wine expert, improve your cooking skills, or make better use of your computer in just a few weeks. Find a gym, play sports at a sports centre or at a local pitch, join a film club, learn to dance, take up a martial art, or do voluntary work. Go on the works night out, anything rather than spend another night in front of the TV.

2) If you can't find a hobby or a social activity that interests you, why not see if there's a Friendly Society or Friendship Club nearby. These are a great way of meeting people, and can be invaluable if you have moved to a new town, and don't know anybody. As well as like minded people, these clubs offer many social activities and social group events which can range from quiz nights at a local pub, to foreign travel, and may include special offers on such products as medical insurance.

3) Although easier said than done, try not to be shy when meeting people for the first time, even though you may feel you lack confidence. When you are in a social situation, aim to make the first move, and other shy people will be glad you broke the ice. Remember to listen more than you talk as people usually like to talk about themselves, so give them the opportunity, but don't talk about yourself unless asked. Ask plenty of questions but nothing too personal or controversial. You can ask them how they got to be invited, or how they know the host, about their job, about their hobbies, music, film and TV tastes and more. Be yourself, and try not to change just to fit in. Accept that you won't like everyone you talk to, and not everyone will like you.

4) You may be able to tell a little about a person from the way they dress, or from what they are carrying. If somebody is carrying a camera, listening to a portable music player, reading a book or magazine, walking a dog, or pushing a pram, you might have something else to talk about.

5) Try to ask open questions such as "What do you think of ...?" rather than "Do you like ...?" as they require a more detailed answer, and encourage conversation. Questions that require a Yes or No answer don't make for an easy conversation.

6) Like minded people can often become friends. If you've always wanted to do something different, or take up a new activity, this could be the ideal time. From abseiling to zoology, there's bound to be a local club or society that you can join. For example, if you play a musical instrument, why not visit a local music shop and see if you can find a band to join, or musicians to play with. If you're an avid reader, why not join a book club. Volunteer work can be very rewarding if you have the free time. If you're an animal lover, there may be an animal rescue centre that you could help out. Cycle shops will often have information about local routes and the local cycling club. Getting to know your neighbours can also be an easy way to make friends.

7) You can also make friends online using social media sites or chat rooms. However, these types of friendships are not usually the same as real life friendships. You might have a great time talking to someone in a foreign country who likes the same music and films as you do, but this friend probably won't be able to give you a lift if your car won't start.

8) Once you've made friends, don't forget to get a phone number or email address, and be positive! Contact your new friend, but don't be put out if they are too busy or unable to meet you for a while. Remember not to seem clingy or desperate. If you have the opportunity to make more friends, then do so, don't feel like you have to rely on just one person.

9) Being an honest, dependable and trustworthy person and not divulging too much about yourself or other people is important. People value loyalty and punctuality too, so treat other people as you would like to be treated. If you turn up late, and start divulging secrets, repeating rumours or spreading gossip, people will be less likely to be friendly towards you, and may not trust you again.

10) As well as the good times like going out for a drink, or to a gig, you should be prepared to help out when a friend really needs your help. Whether a shoulder to cry on, a late night lift home, or advice, friends should be reliable and there might be a time when you have to be a real friend to someone who needs you.

Finding a good friend won't happen overnight, and you will probably need to work at maintaining friendships. Sometimes a friend won't be able to see you for a while, and sometimes that friend will want to see you daily. Some people need time to themselves, and others don't.

Remember your old friends can still be contacted by phone or email even if you no longer live near them. As well as phone calls and emails, why not make a special effort to see them once in a while and make a weekend or a holiday out of it.

Friendships can last a lifetime, and there are plenty of people who still keep in touch with people who are thousands of miles away. Get out there, find yourself some new friends and have a hectic social life!

Small Birthday Celebration 2010